How to Choose a Baby Name (Without Losing Your Mind)

Choosing a baby name can feel like the most important decision you will ever make. The good news: there are strategies that work, and you have more time than you think.

Start with what matters to you

Before diving into lists, ask yourself what matters most. Is it the meaning of the name? Cultural or religious significance? How it sounds with your surname? Family tradition? Uniqueness? Knowing your priorities helps you filter the thousands of options into a manageable shortlist.

Build a longlist

Both parents (if applicable) independently write down every name they like, without filtering. Do not judge at this stage. The goal is to get everything on paper. Sources of inspiration include family names, cultural heritage, literature, nature, places you love, and names from your community.

Narrow it down

Compare your lists and highlight any names that appear on both. These are your starting point. Then go through the remaining names and each person picks their top 10. Compare again. The overlap becomes your shortlist.

For each shortlisted name, test it practically. Say the full name aloud (first, middle, surname). Write it down. Check the initials do not spell anything unfortunate. Consider common nicknames and whether you like them. Think about how easy it is to spell and pronounce.

Handling family opinions

Well-meaning relatives will have opinions. You do not have to share your shortlist before the baby arrives. Many parents find it easier to announce the name after birth when it is already decided. If you do share early, be prepared for feedback and remember that the final decision is yours.

When to decide

There is no deadline during pregnancy. Some parents know from week 12, others are still deciding in the delivery room. In the UK, you have 42 days after birth to register the name. Many parents find that meeting their baby helps them decide.

If you are stuck

Try Nuhah's free baby name generator, which draws from a diverse collection of names across cultures and traditions. Sometimes browsing names you had not considered opens up new possibilities. You might also try the sleep test: if you can imagine calling the name across a playground in ten years and it still feels right, it is probably the one.